Conversations

The most magnificent Creators don’t want to get together with people who think just like they do. They’re looking for people who have other thoughts, because out of the contradiction, comes ideas that could not be born out of sameness. Your relationships will be ultimately more if you’re not identical twins just “yessing, yessing, yessing” to everything that the other one is about.  — Abraham  [Excerpted from Los Angeles, CA – Saturday, July 24th, 1999]

What a wonderful, salient quote from the collective called Abraham.  It is logically true, unless and until we are confronted with a point of view that conflicts with our own and then so easy to forget.  The choices in any conversation with two or more points of vision/view are to become angry, defensive and then move to an attack posture so that we can be right…or to become passive as we listen, and then as we make the choice of what might be a point of acceptance of another, if not necessarily a belief or view to internalize.  “Yes, I can understand how you might feel that or think that,” or something similar if there isn’t anything that really can be agreed with.  Then, “Do you really want to hear what I think and believe…not to make you wrong or me right, but just an exposure to my thinking?”  It is very possible that the whole conversation might end at that moment, but with an ending note that isn’t a raised voice which leaves both you and the other person feeling anything but happy.  Sometimes a “Do you really want to know what I think about this” will end a potentially unhappy conversation before it begins.  What is the goal?  Always our peace, for out of a foundation of peace our greater good can always be realized the sooner.  We cannot ever make the choice for another to make the choice for peace, but we always can for ourselves.  Then, never overlook the possibility that someone just needs a listening ear and an understanding heart because they have made the choice for something other than peace and might not know how to adequately cope.