“Your joy factor will remain constant as you are continually refining your ideas of what you want, and that’s why it is so important for you to get everybody else out of the equation. They’ve got their own game going on; they don’t understand your game. Give them a break; stop asking them what they think. Start paying attention to how you feel. Joy will be yours immediately, and everything else that you have ever thought would make you happy, will start flowing, seemingly effortlessly, into your experience.” Abraham [Excerpted from Asheville, NC on 10/25/03]
How many people are you seeking to please? And, equally important, are you seeking to inject your feelings of approval or disapproval into another’s life? Certainly, if asked, a response is in order, but not a response that manipulates or controls another so as to please something in you that just knows what is best for him or her. If asked by another what you think about a choice they are seeking to make, suggest your response to be “Thinking about it, does it feel good…does it bring feelings of happy anticipation? Then you have your answer.” And, then get back to the scenario (game) that is playing called “my life” and apply the same principle. There is always something at the core of your being that is all Wisdom and all-knowing…you don’t need the approval of anyone to unfold what feels good and joy-filled. Certainly, if employed, there might very well be an approval factor, but what Abraham is talking about are the personal choices we all make as we interact with person, place, event or thing. The analogy of another’s journey being like a movie that has its beginning back so far it can’t be counted and will continue on into infinity is a very good analogy. And another if asked, or even if intruding unasked, cannot successfully step in and make decisions for you for they don’t understand the “movie” Abraham calls your game of life, nor do you understand another’s–you are only seeing a brief frame of their game of life that only they alone can measure. “Thinking about it, does it feel good? Is the only answer to a question that is asked. And, if not asked, stay out of another’s life with your brand of wisdom that just knows what is best for them…you don’t.